In the space of 3 weeks, 3 beautiful people that I know left this planet and started their next adventure. It really hit home to me how important it is to actually live our lives, and not get stuck in that place of doing things you don’t really want to, with the idea that you’ll do the things you DO want to do ‘later’.
When is later?
Maybe for my friend Fiona it was when she got her online business off the ground, but now she never will.
Or maybe it was when he retired in three years' time for my dear friend Andy, but now he won’t do that either.
For my stepfather, it might have been next month – but now there is no next month for him.
On the other hand a wonderful friend of my brother’s is currently facing the end of his life due to a sudden illness – but he has lived his life full out, experiencing many adventures that called to his heart. It’s sad that his journey may be coming to an end – but he used the time he had in the best way he knew how…
So how are you using the time that you have left?
The last 10 years have been challenging for me – and I know that it hasn’t only been me who has experienced difficult times recently. It seems as though everyone I speak to has some story to tell of big challenges or simply a feeling of just being stuck and not really even knowing why.
But even though it has definitely been a difficult period for many, we all know that challenges are part of life. Some periods of life are always going to be better than others, and (thankfully) nothing ever remains the same – good times follow not so good, and better times follow that.
The times that I can safely say have been the best in my life so far, were those I spent doing what I loved, with no agenda other than I really wanted to do them. And in those times nothing can stop me – I just make up my mind and I somehow overcome any obstacles in my way, never thinking for one minute that I won’t achieve my dream.
But of course, the ebb and flow of life has made sure that sometimes I have been stuck.
I've realised that the only reason that I ever move out of those periods of my life where everything flows, back to the push and struggle way of living, is because I forget for a while the one thing that I know deep in my heart to be true – the Universe always provides what we need. Our only job in the whole journey of life is to listen to our intuition and follow it fearlessly.
And that is, for me anyway, the key. The only way to really live your life full out is to live fearlessly.
Because every time I get stuck in a place I don’t want to be, those times when I start shrinking into myself and living small again – I can always trace them back to fear.
Is it just me or does everyone get more fearful as they grow older? There are times now when I have to consciously acknowledge the fear and find the strength to let it go, to allow myself to do what is in my heart.
I have to be reminded to trust myself, whereas when I was younger I just did it intuitively, without a thought of what could go wrong – and a conviction that if anything did go wrong – it would all work itself out anyway – so why worry?
My journey has always been about freedom, and I’ve always been hopeful of inspiring others to live the same way. When I was younger I couldn’t understand why people would say things to me like – oh I wish I could do what you do. Because in my naivete, I believed that if you really wanted to do something you just found a way to do it.
But my recent journey has shown me the other side of the coin – and as tough as it was to go through - for that I’m eternally grateful.
Because now I can truly understand what it is to look into the face of fear and uncertainty and still choose freedom. And living in freedom means living life full out.
Life can only be lived dangerously – there is no other way to live it. It is only through the danger than life attains to maturity, growth. One needs to be an adventurer, always ready to risk the known for the unknown. And once one has tasted the joys of freedom and fearlessness, one never repents because then one knows what it means to live at the optimum. Then one knows what it means to burn your life’s torch from both ends together. And even a single moment of that intensity is more gratifying than the whole eternity of mediocre living
– Osho -
Life is a magical adventure if you let it be so. But our human minds are so busy scanning our surroundings looking for threats or remembering past hurts and difficulties that we often totally miss wonderful possibilities and opportunities right in front of us.
Living life full out doesn’t mean you have to leap off cliffs or give everything away and take off around the world. It means living YOUR life to the max - YOUR way. The end goal is that you live life with no regrets.
A life lived full out means stay true to your heart as far as possible in each moment as you journey through life.
Pretty much anything you want to do you already know how to do it - you just need to trust yourself and listen within. Download Part 1 of The Free Spirit's Way - which is all about tapping into your intuition: