We’ve grown up in a world where we’ve been taught to hide who we really are. But we weren't born that way - we were born to live life the free spirit's way...
This is a world that contradicts itself as we grow older.
When we’re young we’re told we shouldn't do things just because everyone else is doing it - "would you jump off a cliff just because everyone else is doing it?”
Admittedly, this was usually as a way of trying to control us.
But still – we were being given the licence to think for ourselves and follow our own intuitive path.
But as we grow up, somewhere along the line, we get a different message – the one that says - if everyone else is doing it we should do it too.
And so, a fear of stepping outside the herd is instilled in you. But are you a sheep, or a child of a limitless Universe?
You may be wondering why you should care about this. It’s because, if you’re feeling in any way unfulfilled and stuck in a rut – it’s probably because you’re living a life that isn’t yours, and maybe you don’t fully realise it.
We’ve been fed a lot of false beliefs. One of those beliefs is that you cannot follow your heart - you shouldn’t trust your feelings because that will just lead to chaos.
There are various reasons given for this, mostly something to do with money (you’ll never make any money doing that). But also, to do with a lie that when you do what you love, you’ll stop loving it, and before long you’ll hate it.
But ask yourself – who is telling you this? Who is giving you this important information? Is it someone who has made it their life’s mission to follow their heart – to go against the way things are usually done? Richard Branson perhaps? Or maybe Tony Robbins, or Steve Jobs?
I'll bet it's not. Because the only people who say that are people who haven’t ever done it. Or they tried it for 5 minutes and then fear made them conform again.
"Have the courage to follow your heart and your intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
- Steve Jobs -
Living this way does not mean that challenges don’t occur, that things always go your way – but they’re so much easier to handle when you’re in love with how you spend your time.
(Side note – you can’t half do this… you either follow your heart… or you don’t).
We’ve been taught that we have to look outside for everything; that within us are only wishes, dreams and usually unrealistic ideals. If everyone else is doing it – it must be right. If no-one is – it’s not.
But the trouble is that this premise is obviously flawed – otherwise why are so many people who are doing the ‘right’ thing, so unhappy?
Maybe it’s to do with the fact that they don’t have a big enough TV, or their house only has 3 bedrooms?
They may think so, but I disagree – I think it’s because they’re not being true to who they really are.
Start listening to what your heart is actually saying… what are you pulled towards?
We all have ‘gut feelings’ about things – we have secret dreams that no matter what we do, they never go away.
But how do we know they’re really what we want, rather than just some fantasy that in real life would be something we’d hate?
When you start listening to those whispers you’ve ignored for so long and getting back in touch with who we really are, you begin to discern between ego fantasies and what is really in your heart.
But, just like building muscles, you need to use it continually for it to gain strength.
We all radiate energy and people will pick up your ‘vibes’ and instantly like you, or trust you, or not – based on nothing but how they feel – which is really based on what vibes they pick up from you. You cannot hide them.
This doesn’t mean that you’re bad – but if you’re saying one thing with your mouth and actions, and another with your energy - something seems 'off'.
I’ve always been tuned into this energy. Even in the face of others still refusing to see, I've held my view – only to be proved right in the end.
But it’s not about being ‘right’ it’s about trusting that what I feel is a true indicator of what I’m picking up from someone else.
You pick up what is really going on, on an energetic level, not what is appearing in the form of words or facial expressions.
And that’s the difference. Those who didn’t trust what they felt, instead trusted what they were being told, and only once the mask was lifted did they realise they knew all along something was not ‘right’.
"Not trusting your sixth-sense will always - and I mean always - come back to haunt you. Have the courage to stand alone and trust your vibes."
- Sonia Choquette -
So how does this relate to you - to re-connecting to your free spirit and unleashing it in your life so you live the life you were meant to live, and thrive?
Well… it’s everything. When you are really clear on how to tap into these unseen forces, when you realise that you can break free and still survive – then you have a choice again in how to live your life: the way you’re living it now; or as your true self - not only loving your life, but being a beacon to others that it is possible and anyone can do it.
The biggest secret is – we all have the ability to live a life we love – and I feel so strongly about sharing that message.
I’ve always had this urge to follow my heart, to change things up when I didn’t want to do something any more.
And for years I did that. But I felt guilty. It wasn’t the way things were done, I was told. You don’t get to do what you want, you get to do what you should do, what everyone else is doing, otherwise bad stuff happens.
So I started to do that, to try and fit in and follow the herd, but I felt miserable. The trouble was I could never settle into that way of life.
I’d manage it for a while then I’d follow some crazy scheme to do something different. Then I’d settle for a while and then when the restlessness got the better of me I’d change it all up again.
The truth is – the guilt about living living life MY way kept me running back to conformity.
I didn’t even know what the guilt was about – it was just this vague sense of doing the wrong thing, of letting people down.
I always ended up feeling I’d better stop messing about and get back to ‘reality’ again.
"We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else's idea of life."
- James van Praagh -
Then… after one of my ‘freedom runs”, things hit rock bottom.
I felt that I had completely messed my life up because I had nothing to show for all my years on the planet, except some pretty good stories and a lot of photographs.
I redoubled my efforts to live life according to other peoples’ rules.
It all finally came crashing down. It was a huge wake up call.
I realised that my rebellious streak, which I always tried to hide, was there for a reason. So, I made a stand. I declared:
I will not allow the small, fear-based minds of the world to shut me down any longer. I will live life my way, in freedom and in the flow and I will thrive.
And I do and I have.
But something else emerged – I felt compelled to share this with others who feel the call to do it too. And so, Free Spirit Unleashed was born, and later, The Free Spirit's Way.
If I could distil this into one paragraph (hard for me to do because I love words) I’d say:
The truth is, there is nothing to DO. Just become aware of being true to yourself in each moment, follow your intuition and trust that you DO know what’s right for you. You simply need the courage to start being who you really are - that will change everything.
However, I also know that whilst that sounds really simple – you may need some guidance to do this.
So here are 5 steps that you can take to help you move towards living life your way and thriving
It’ll probably be a slow dance - you’ll find yourself in the flow one moment and back to worrying and forcing the next. But gradually, as you let go of all the conditioning, you’ll start to live life in that space more and more.
You’ll understand your true nature and who it is you came here to be and the world will be a better place because of it.
Abundance will flow in your life as and when you need it, not just money, but love and support and whatever you need to thrive.
I’m in the process of creating The Free Spirit’s Way, which is a guide that will help to take the fear and struggle away and replace it with trust and allowing. It will show you how to:
1 – Find who you came here to be
2 – Step out of mass thinking and trust yourself again
3 – Leave limiting beliefs and fear-based thinking behind
4 – Thrive by following your heart
5 - Connect with the brilliance you've hidden
6 - Regain your trust in life and live in the flow
If you take this seriously (and by that, I mean you pay some attention to it and follow the guidance therein) your life will begin to shift from struggle to flow. You’ll finally give yourself permission to choose a completely different path if that’s what you want.
You’ll recapture the energy of your youth, you’ll realise that perhaps you don’t need as much stuff as you have, and that money is not really your goal but a tool you use – and when you shift to that way of thinking, paradoxically you always have enough.
You may realise just how much you actually hate your job, and start looking for another way to earn your living in alignment with who you really are.
You’ll find that striving and forcing doesn’t work nearly as elegantly as allowing and being at ease, that following your heart actually does lead to living a life where you thrive, where your true self can emerge and happiness appears like the sun creeps over the horizon at dawn.
You can make this shift slowly or you can take a giant leap, but it’s not important how you do it – because the doing only comes from your being – being you.
No more masks, no more false persona’s based on what you’ve constructed to keep you safe. There is nothing to stay safe from.
The Universe has your back – you are simply a part of the whole and everything that you desire is already available to you – if you allow your true self to shine through – you step onto the path – your path – that is littered with all the gifts you set up for yourself before you came here.
And it doesn’t matter how old or young you are – if this resonates with you it’s time to set your spirit free!
Make this YOUR journey - don't just blindly follow what I say. This worked for me - you may find that different things work for you - but just use this as a guide to assist you.
If you choose not to do this, that’s fine too. You’ll stay where you are, and life will be good and bad the way it is now.
But you’ll continue to vibrate at a different frequency from who you truly are, and consequently you won’t find the beauty you came here to see.
You’ll see glimpses every now and then, but not the entire picture because it’s only visible when you let go of the mask, when you let go of the pretence that you know everything and that all you need is a bigger pay check and all will be well.
You’ll still survive, you may even do well, but you’ll never thrive because to do that you need to be true to yourself.
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Whatever you choose is perfect, as long as it's what YOU choose.